One of the most tragic ways we as woman stop ourselves from stepping into our power and rising into our ideal self is through feeling that there is something wrong with us.
We live in a society that idealizes images of perfect, or distorted-reality women. Being constantly bombarded with these crazy body distortions it’s no wonder why we are running on a body acceptance hamster wheel. How many times have you said “If I just lost x amount of weight or pounds, then I would be happy”?
Body acceptance isn’t about getting to an ideal weight, it’s ALL about loving and accepting your body as it is right now. Learn to love your body unconditionally and watch the magic unfold. You can’t get to where you want to go if you don’t love yourself as you are right now today.
This is YOUR journey! Own it and do you in a way that feels good for you.
It’s time to show up and do the work to find self-love, compassion and acceptance. It is a practice and it begins with a positive mindset and believing that you can absolutely do this. In this moment your relationship with your body is opening up (if you choose to do so). It is becoming more respectful, patient, and kind. Begin to acknowledge your body as a sacred vessel of the divine, as a beautiful temple in which your spirit lives regardless of what it looks like. Pledge now to do the things your body needs in order to be healthy and happy and to abstain from activities and thoughts that cause it harm.
You will notice how much lighter you feel and you will begin to see how it’s all connected. When you feel lighter you release the stress, struggle, worry and pain or anxiety that poor body image can cause you.
It all begins with having the right mindset to do the inner work to make the shift happen.
Are you ready to start giving your body the love it deserves?
I am ready to do the work to become confident in my body today. I am ready to give my body the love that it deserves.pam Rocca
5 Tips to Improving Your Confidence in Your Body.
Tip #1 – Start your day confident – Begin to Practice Gratitude Towards Your Body.
Each morning when you wake up stand in front of a mirror (clothing optional) and say 3-5 things that you love about your body. If it feels challenging say 3 things that you are grateful for when it comes to your body.
This might be hard at first, and that’s ok just be kind to yourself. Know that the more you practice this, the easier it will get and the more confident you will feel. If your mind starts to pick out negative things see how you can change it to a positive. For example: “I hate my big thighs” can be turned into “I love my strong legs, they allow me to run and running nourishes my mind, body and soul”. This leads right into tip 2.
Tip #2 – Stop Negative Self-Talk.
Begin to bring your awareness to the words you speak, think, say and believe towards yourself and your body. What language are you using? Is it positive or negative?
Without judgement just bring your awareness to it. When a negative thought pops in, acknowledge that it is there and let it no that it’s not allowed to stay, it is no longer welcome here. I like to joke when making hard changes and think of negative thoughts that come in like unwanted house guest, it’s time to GO! A good practice to get into is to stop the negative comment, thought or belief and replace it with a positive one. Just like the tip above and anything else, the more you practice the easier it becomes.
A positive mindset is everything when it comes to successful long term change. If you struggle to replace a negative thought with a positive one, try to debunk the negative thoughts by thinking why it’s not true. For example one of my old “unconfident” thought was “I am not good enough”. When that thought appeared or rolled in my mind I would journal 3-5 things why that thought isn’t true. See your brain cannot believe it when you prove why it’s wrong or not true. Our thoughts sabotage our goals so easily. Be mindful of the thoughts you think, your mind is like a garden and negative thoughts are weeds. Pull them out & water your grass (the positive thoughts). Maybe create a mantra that works for you. A positive mindset is everything when it comes to confidence and having a healthy self-esteem.
Tip #3 – Do things that make you feel confident.
Practice doing things that make you feel really good in your body, or the way you want to feel. Start by asking yourself how do I want to feel?
What does “being confident in my body” look and feel like?
I work out daily (or move my body daily) because it makes me feel really good (feelings like strong, energized, fit, healthy etc. Even just a 20 minute walk outside with a good podcast lights me up. Write a list, what makes you feel really good in your body? Create a list and start doing the things on your list more.
Tip #4 – Dress with confidence.
Wear something that make you feel fabulous, comfortable, hot, whatever feeling you need to feel today.
It might sound silly but sometimes when I am having a low day I will put this red dress on, do my hair & make up and it makes me feel fabulous. I have a red bathing suit that makes me feel the same way. If you don’t have a “confidence” dress or outfit I highly recommend you get one asap. Even just a cute pair of undies can make you feel like a total babe.
Tip #5 – Just love yourself. Be kind. Be compassionate.
Be willing to do the inner work and make it a new practice. It’s just like going to the gym, you wouldn’t walk in the first day & expect to be able to lift 100 lbs. But when you consistently show up & do the work you get stronger and you feel better. What practices help you love yourself more? Foster more kindness towards yourself?
Here are a 10 of my favourite things:
- Spending time with positive confident people
- Cooking nourishing foods or baking
- Spending time in nature
- Snuggling with the family – reading books or watching movies – reminding myself that I am a role model for them.
- Doing things that make my heart happy
Love your bod. Affirmation “I love my body”.
“ I choose to listen to and honour what my body needs and letting go of everything else”.
“My body deserves to be loved”.
“I am have the power to love my body unconditionally”.
“I choose to find and see my inner goddess”.
Create your own affirmation that works for you.
Know that this is a practice and it doesn’t happen overnight, but small consistent effort works magic overtime.
If you know a friend who would enjoy these tips on how to build a more confident body image I would so appreciate you sharing it with them. It’s time to end the illusion that we are meant to be a certain way or size. As women let’s support each other to fall in love with our bodies and show up as the confident, radiant goddesses that we are destined to be.
How are you loving and accepting yourself today?
In love and light,